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No need to call me doctor (it was the only domain left). I'm associate professor of New Testament at Knox Theological Seminary and Assistant Pastor at Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in Ft. Lauderdale, FL. I've been married for twenty-four years to Cindy, with whom I have two children, Charity and Josiah. Photo of Sam Lamerson

Sadness

Posted on Saturday, November 3rd, 2007 at 11:06 am

I once read a quotation ”You never do anything, knowingly, for the last time without a feeling of sadness.” I wondered about that. Is it really true? Even the hard things? Even the things that we hate? I think so.

Of course it is true that we never knowingly do anything that we love for the last time without feeling sad. All of us can remember those times. The last meeting for a class that we particularly enjoyed. The last meal at home before we moved out. The last sermon by a beloved pastor before he moved on to another church. But even the things that we hate, when we do them knowingly for the last time, they bring us sadness because they mark a part of our lives that we will never get back.

The problem is that when anything ends, good or bad, it reminds us of the fact that our lives are also limited in time. There will come a day when we will take our last breath. That need not be sad, though, because we are moving on to the better city. The city in which we will never say goodbye. The city in which there will be no sadness. The city in which there will be no tears. We look for that city through the tears of sadness, but we know that one day we will never again feel this sadness. We are moving to the city where all tears are wiped away and all sadness is gone. The city in which our hearts are ever full of the love that we feel for those things we never want to do for the last time. Sadness now, but hope tomorrow. We are moving tword the Son.

Onward . . .

SamLam

Comments

1eclexia:Saturday, November 3rd, 2006 at 8:51 pm

This post is so true! The “sad” part of me is very often misunderstood, but for me it’s more like the sad and happy stay all juggled up together and I can hardly imagine one without the other. There’s something about sadness and longing which make the joy that is and the joy to come so rich.
On a less spiritual note, this post reminded me of one of my favorite stories--"Tear Soup”, the children’s story in the book Owl at Home by Arnold Lobel.

2Matthew Cornell:Sunday, November 4th, 2006 at 6:48 am

Thanks for the quote, Sam. It’s particularly poignant for me as a parent. Every day I see my daughter grow older (she’s 7) I feel both excited for her growth and accomplishments, and sad that she’ll never be this age again. Bittersweet. That said, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I think it’s like love in general - you can’t have a loving relationship with anyone without realizing the price of entry is the loss and pain you’ll feel when it ends. So I agree with the old adage, “It is better to love and have lost than to never have loved at all.”

3eclexia:Sunday, November 4th, 2006 at 7:45 pm

Oops--I got my stories mixed up. Tear Soup is a book about grief. The story I meant was “Tear-Water Tea” in the book Owl at Home.

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